Thanks for reading and starting a conversation! I agree it’s definitely a discussion that we should have more openly, and that too often traditionalists jump to binary conclusions of race.

You make an good point about the transference of culture based on gender. I guess part of this is a cultural assimilation point on the part of the Asian party, and the challenge you might have in performing your culture while surrounded by quite a different one. I’d be curious to hear the opinions of Eurasians raised in Asia!

In gendered parental roles, it’s also interesting that while traditionally (in this case, mostly Asian) mothers disproportionately shoulder the burden of childrearing, the Asian culture often ‘loses out’ for Eurasians raised in the West. Language is an important way diaspora connect with their motherlands, but this has obvious complexities in the case of Eurasians. Anecdotally, I don’t know many Eurasians who are fluent in both parental languages, whereas my full Asian friends are much more likely to be fluent in their mother tongue as well as English. This leaves you in the ‘too Asian, but not Asian enough’ territory, although I appreciate this feeling might not be unique to Eurasians.

I think it’d be great to have more freedom to choose your own culture – or cultural blend – but to get there, we need a much wider shift in the way in which we see culture as fluid and constructed, which might be something that we get more of in an increasingly global, globalised world?